Proverbs 23:12-16

Discipline: Catch Them Doing Something Right


  • Change, childcare is from 5:45 to 7:15. Please do not drop them off earlier than 5:45 or pick them up later than 7:15.
  • You don’t have to go through every question, select questions based on who is in your groups and the amount of time that you have left.

Transformation Questions:

Read Proverbs 23:12-16

  • Describe a situation when you caught your kids or grandkids doing something right when you knew they were doing something wrong? 
  • How would it impact your children if you started trying to catch them doing something right and affirming that action with greater enthusiasm than when you catch them doing something wrong?
  • When you think of discipline, what comes to mind?
    • Don’t take long on this one, but get people to talk about the negative and positive aspects of discipline.
  • Read the passages and one at a time to explain the different ways, positive or negative, that you see Jesus disciplining His disciples. Jesus is our great example. He is the greatest discipler, so we should study how He disciplined to consider how we should.
    • Luke 21:1-4 
      • Jesus honors someone doing something right in front of his disciples, showing them what is desired for them to emulate.
    • Luke 11:1-4 
      • Jesus taught by example. Also, this is pretty far into His ministry and still, he did not get frustrated with the disciples for not knowing how to pray. 
  • Proverbs 23:14 says, “You shall strike him with the rod and rescue his soul from Sheol.” What is the passage saying about discipline? What is the danger of neglecting discipline?
    • It is not loving, not to discipline your children. Your neglect is actually leading to the destruction of their soul. 
  • Psalm 1:27:3 says, “Children are a blessing from the Lord.” Do you sometimes struggle to treat them as if they are a blessing?
  • Do you think your kids believe that you feel that they are a blessing? 
  • Have you ever been around a person who was not disciplined as a child (maybe in your extended family) that you have seen come to ruin as an adult because they were “loved by their parents too much” to be disciplined? What was that like? Why is it not loving to spoil your children?
  •  How does following through with discipline teach children about God and the Gospel?
    • The way that we parent teaches our children about the character of God. If a parent promises discipline but never delivers, they are teaching that God will not follow through. This is showing them a lie about God. God follows through, or He would be a liar. Those who do not honor and love God are punished in Hell. Jesus died on the cross because God delivered on His promise punishment, but Jesus took the punishment we deserved.
  • Do you have a plan on how you are going to disciple (teach) your children to love God?
    • This is a great systematized method for training your children at any age to both love and learn about Jesus. 
    • Random is not good enough. Think through what you believe is age-appropriate to learn about God and pursue your child’s soul by teaching them the truths and love of God.  


Be in thought about a project(s) your Lifegroup can do in the community. When you decide your project, please email [email protected] so we can keep track of what God is doing through our church. 

A service project coming in October is Band Night at the football game. Parents work the concession stands and don’t get to watch their kids march, so we take over for the night and allow the parents to participate in their student’s last home game of the year. 


Take a moment to consider who your group can reach out to this week.